of groove and good-looking women

Feb. 25th, 2026 11:01 am
sistawendy: me in my nun costume with my duster cross, looking hopeful (hopeful nun)
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I made it to the Blue Moon last night, having arranged to be there with Blue Moon Lady. Go me! It's a short bus ride for me, but for her it's a long drive. I appreciate it.

It was digital open decks night. Good: Hazel Zen for sure, and maybe Krystal? It took me a while to find the whiteboard on which Brit writes down the set times. Less to my taste: River, a young 'un who's about 90% limbs and 100% trans. River's hyperpop-flavored set was not what we olds wanted, and indeed, no one was dancing. I speculated that it was because the youth of today are doing the wrong drugs. BML's friend J concurs, saying that the increase in ketamine's popularity and the decline in MDMA's has led us to this pass.

Was it a date? Well, it didn't feel like a date. But! We agreed that we should keep each other notified if we're going to the Blue Moon or a north end munch. She runs the munch in West Seattle, if you'll recall. So, vict'ry?

I left at 2130 because I got paged for work. It was kind of a convenient excuse, though; remember, I get up at 0600.

Transphobia on the bus home. I don't think I was in any danger, because the bottle-throwing fool was getting off, but still, not fun. That's the second time I've had aggro at that stop. Some people's children.

Nun dodges bullet, all unawares?

Feb. 23rd, 2026 06:48 am
sistawendy: me in my nurse costume looking weirded out (weirded out)
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When I drove out of Camp Beaverton for Wayward Girls in 2018, one of the two mayors said goodbye to me through my car window and offered me a leadership role. I declined, saying that the next time I was at Burning Man it would be for revenge.

Fast forward to this year. I got in touch with her via electronic means and told her I wouldn't be camping with Beaverton this year. "It's not them, it's me," I said.
"Oh, it's them, trust me," came the reply.
It was a long and sad story, she said. I neither asked for nor received any elaboration.

I've heard of Beavers having... conflicts, if that isn't too strong a word, between each other, but it was always about individuals, not the camp. Yes, it is a sad story. I wonder what I'll find when I get there.

Fangirl geebling

Feb. 22nd, 2026 12:32 pm
cupcake_goth: (GeeWay)
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The background: last year MCR announced the second US leg of the Long Live the Black Parade tour, with the city/date closest to me being Oct. 24 in L.A.. The Stroppy One sighed at the inevitable, and cass404 braved the Ticketmaster queue to get us tickets. the Ticketmaster online queue to get us tickets. Then MCR announced the final two shows of the tour, both in L.A.: Oct. 30 & 31. Cue much wailing from me, because there was no way I could afford to stay in L.A. for a week. 

Last weekend, the Stroppy One suggested I ask Cass if I could stay at her place for a week, and the we head back to L.A. for the concerts. I stared, asked if he was okay with me missing our anniversary to go see MCR. He pointed out that he wouldn’t have suggested it if he wasn’t, just see if tickets were available you silly head. 

So! After conferring with Cass, I’m going to see if any tickets are available. Because spending time with Cass is something I desperately miss, and omg my precious cupcakes of bombast.

Nun meets future campmates.

Feb. 21st, 2026 05:48 pm
sistawendy: me standing in front of a giant pair of wings at Burning Man 2007 (Burning Man wings)
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But first, the leather dyke munch. Had an agreeable time talking with fellow trans folks. Yes, again. Finally asked B the organizatrix, "Where are all the people over fifty?" She said that she'd been considering throwing an event earlier in the evening for us elders. Sort of like the Hot Flash dance nights an Neighbours, she said, only freakier. Shoot, I'd go. I would have stayed later at B's fundraiser on the other side of CC's, but I had plans for today, namely...

...I took a bus route that was new to me a loooong way south to White Center for my first Burning Man camp meeting this year. In attendance were Burner R (not to be confused with any earlier R's) and [personal profile] leenerella. Neither of them are planning on going to the playa this year, but this wasn't just a meeting for planning for Burning Man; there are other Burner-flavored events various subsets of the crew are going to, some of which I'll be medically unable to attend due to surgery.

It's been eight years since I went, and unlike my last several trips to The Thing In The Desert, I don't have my own vehicle anymore. I've been worried about logistics because how could I not be? R put my transportation fears to rest: the gang is used to carpooling, and has a trailer for moving the vast quantities of gear and infrastructure that we haul into the desert.

As for my smaller worries – camp dues, if any, and gasoline for the inevitable generator, etc. – it's too soon to ask about those. I'll just have to do what doesn't come naturally and take care of those questions later.

But overall, it's an experienced group of people who know what they're doing and also have fun. Hell to the yes. I'm feeling even better about this crew – Astro Shack, by name – than I felt earlier.
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- While I still love love love this dress from a Ukrainian designer, I went to another website to ogle an embroidered long linen jacket that I've also pined over, and now I can't decide which to buy in a few weeks. I'm now leaning toward the linen piece, because that would be more versatile. 

- I spent some time idly searching for granny and/or "Victorian" boots across eBay, Poshmark, and Depop, and let me tell you, there is nothing out there with combination of a pointed or almond toe shape, lace-up, a side zipper, and a 2" block or walking heel. But then I had the possibly brilliant thought of taking a pair of my existing lace-up boots to a cobbler to have a side zip put in. I need to ponder this some more, but I sense a trip to the cobbler in my future.

- Remember that fabric with the Haunted Mansion wallpaper print on AliExpress? It arrived, and the print quality is good! The actual color isn't pink, but a bright wine, which also works for me. When the Stroppy One saw the fabric, he told me to order more, as he wants a waistcoat in it, and possibly a jacket.

---

I'm constantly tired, no matter how much sleep I get, and I'm having non-stop stress nightmares every night. Dear Brain, a nightmare of the Stroppy One presenting us with divorce papers because we got his coffee order wrong is ridiculous, as is the one where he abandons me at airport security and walks off with my passport and Clovis Devilbunny. RIDICULOUS, STOP IT. 

of drinks & dollars

Feb. 20th, 2026 07:01 am
sistawendy: a cartoon of me in club clothes (dolly)
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Drinks with the latex folks. We three trans women ended up in the corner together. I didn't have a good view of the sweet young(er) things in their shinery finery, but I did laugh a lot. Je ne regrette rien.

The bus location system seems to be unusually imprecise lately. This meant running to catch one, which makes a little latex dress ride up. Good thing it was cold and I was wearing a long, puffy coat.

Got tax refund. Nuked debt and banked the rest because I have a funny feeling I need to keep my powder dry. Never mind how I feel about giving a zero-interest loan to this particular "administration"; you bet your butt I itemize deductions.

Accomplishments, sorta?

Feb. 18th, 2026 06:33 am
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
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  1. I've discovered that after a night's sleep I feel way better in my joints & muscles if I stay in the uncompressed middle of the mattress. I should probably rotate it.
  2. Yeah, orgasms are easier to come by lately. Is it longer days or lower estrogen levels? Tune in next winter.
  3. I've successfully done business correspondence in Esperanto. And why? Because I was trying to order the news monthly Monato, which is published in Belgium, and payments between North America and Europe are a pain.
  4. Edited to add: spent Monday and part of last night cleaning house. Nobody's coming over, but it was time.
  5. Edited to add some more: definitely making progress on the Burning Man Checklist of Doom.

another blast from my past

Feb. 16th, 2026 08:21 am
sistawendy: me in C18-inspired makeup looking amused (amused eighteenthcent)
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Coffee at the mighty fine joint six blocks from my house with grad school classmate E. Yet more discussion of the struggles of parents, this time with ADHD & transness. Confirmed: E is two for two with the trans kids. And you know how Good Sister did nearly all the heavy lifting of taking care of Mom in my family? E is the good sister in her family. It was a beautiful day for a bite out of a perspective sandwich.

I wanted to go out for house music at Flammable, but I woke up too early due to homemade Ma Po tofu on Saturday. Le sigh. Betrayed by my body for the second time this weekend.

And why would I even think of going out on a Sunday night? Because I have the day off and, naturally, a to-do list. More typing when it's done.

a... something from my past

Feb. 15th, 2026 08:32 am
sistawendy: me in profile in a Renaissance dress at a party (contemplative red)
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But first, and this does come into play later: on Friday evening I got a COVID shot, etc. at CVS, no fuss no muss, a historically normal drugstore experience. There was a time when I would have taken that for granted, but not anymore. Pity CVS is kind of a hike from my place, unlike the cursed Walgreen's.

On to yesterday afternoon. I had coffee with [profile] dianala! Whom I hadn't seen since before the pandemic. She's one of my oldest friends in the Seattle area, and she's also the one who plugged me into MOO and thereby the kink community, LiveJournal and thereby Dreamwidth, etc. So you could say she's had an outsize influence on my life. She didn't work as hard at it as, say, [personal profile] cupcake_goth, but she administered some crucial course corrections at a few points in my life.

We're all living with the aftermath of the pandemic. Her two boys, now young men, have got the 'tism like whoa, and that's basically consumed her life since the pandemic started; the pandemic made it significantly harder. Her husband [personal profile] lister, who I actually think is cool, seems to be fighting depression, and she recognizes that she needs to get out & be more social. I'll do what I can, natch, but neither clubbing nor kink nor bleepy goodness are her thing. There's art, though.

I guess I shouldn't be surprised that we've grown in such different directions since the turn of the century – she was the self-styled Big Dyke On Campus back in the early '90s – but I confess to being a little sad about it.

It's funny how she & I have both given into do-gooder impulses: I mainly through Lambert House, and she by starting a non-profit that does micro-grants fast, which is often of the essence. I'm impressed.

Fun fact: the user pic I used was taken in the very early aughts inside what was then [profile] dianala's house.

I went to the Mercury briefly. I enjoyed the Valentine's Day decorations as only [profile] seelenschwester would do them, plus all the femmes femmed up more than usual. (J of A&J fame confirmed my suspicion.) But the COVID shot kicked my butt and I left early. I swung by Pony on the way to the train station; I didn't feel the music, but I did start feeling a sore ankle. That was Goddess telling me to go home already, which I did.

Oh: of course one of the Merc DJs played a song that I first heard at one of [profile] dianala's parties. Kind of perfect, really.

Oh oh: the train to the north end announced itself as a 2 line train*! Hurrah! The automatic station announcements were for stations in Redmond, so the conductor had to get on the PA and give out the real ones for, you know, north Seattle. It is to laugh.



*For you out-of-towners, our light rail network isn't quite networked just yet: the two light rail lines are disconnected. The 1 line runs the length of Seattle and then some, and the 2 line stays on the east side of Lake Washington. That all changes on March 28th, though, when the world's only rail over a floating bridge opens to the public. They were testing things out yesterday. You know I'm psyched about this.
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- I'm still dithering about the striped blouse and skirt from Blackwood Castle. The dithering continues because 1) do I really need more clothes? and 2) ...

- I spent a not-inconsiderable sum on a one-of-a-kind pendant from Bloodmilk. I missed it when it was originally for sale, but the woman who bought it is in France and realized that because of other things, she couldn't afford the tariffs and other shipping nonsense. She's reached out to Bloodmilk and they will ship it directly to me. 

- Having bought that has also helped me deal with the extreme annoyance of learning that Chanel brought back Rouge Noir lipstick as a limited edition and it's already sold out and is going for double the original price over on Poshmark. Both the Stroppy One and minim-calibre reminded me that there was no way of seeing the color IRL (of course it was an online/boutique only release), so I had no way of telling if the color was accurate or if it skewed warm like so many dark blackened red lipsticks do these days. 

- AMC has released another teaser trailer for The Vampire Lestat! Plus finally released the first single, "Long Face", for sale on various music platforms, and UPDATED THE MERCH STORE WITH A TOUR SHIRT. Sooooo those are things I tripped and hit the Buy Now button for. 

- The Ghost concert is Sunday, wheeee! Faux -Satanic metal + bombast is exactly what I need right now. Shallow Fashion Details for my planned outfit:

  • Black and pink striped unnerving governess dress
  • Black lace and ribbon jabot that has the "Memento Vivre / Memento Mori" ribbon from Kalma as the focal point
  • Wide black elastic belt with skeleton hand buckle
  • Hair pulled up under a vintage black silk top hat (it's a short crown hat, so it won't block anyone's view) festooned with veils
  • Black and pink Dr. Martens
  • Black face mask
Now to hope I can manage to dye at least the front half of my hair so it's not a faded mess that shows beneath the hat.

sistawendy: my 2006 Prius at the dealership (Prius)
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I took the bus to West Seattle for a munch and, more importantly, to see Blue Moon Lady. Ahem. Victory: it only too me two buses and seventy minutes, instead of the previous three buses and ninety minutes.

It's been ages since I went that far on California Ave., if I ever did. It's got an impressive number of small businesses. i get the impression that West Seattle wouldn't suck as a place to live, except that it's notoriously hard to get anywhere else from there.

Had pleasant chats with kinky folk. Collected kinky stickers. Colored weird drawings. Drank tasty beer at Good Society, which is a microbrewery. Happiness.

I mentioned to BML that I hadn't seen her at the Blue Moon lately. She said I should reminder her via... means I have at my disposal. Go me!

But then it came time to go home. I gave up and called a Lyft because I just didn't feel up to a ninety-minute trip starting at 2100. Le sigh.

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